April is done, gone and put away, and all that's left to do is look back at the month and reflect on how it went.
A to Z challenge:
Yup, I totally failed. I made it to day 15 and then life happened, and I totally got away from my good groove. I'm pretty annoyed with myself because I haf planned it all out, but I guess it just shows that even the best plans doesn't help you if you don't actually follow them. But, I'm not gonna be all sad about it. I'll just have to try better next year and plan even better. It's a lerning experience, and as long as I actually learned somethig from it I'm happy.
Easter was great. I went to my parents place and we celebrated my sons birthday, the kids got way to much chocolate (I still got some in the cupboard) and we had a nice easter dinner and lunch. We where super lucky, and had wonderful weather the easter days, so we got to grill in the garden, have a fire and make marshmellows, and go to the beach (though the only one crazy enough to go in the freezing water was my dad. The rest of us just soaked up some sun and relaxed on the sand while the kids played)
I started an Apartment garden. Basically, I've decided to try and grow veg indoors in a tiny apartment. What I have done is taken all the windowspace and simply used for eatable plants instead of flowers. So far I got two tomato plants, two bell peppers, and about 20 pots of salad growing. The idea came from watching a favorite program of mine, River Cottage. If you don't know the program its about this british guy who decides to leave the busy life in town and try and make it as a small holder in the british country, growing his own food, having a few animals and using what nature can give him. I like the idea, and got thinking that just because I live in a city in a small apartment, shouldn't mean I couldn't be more self sufficient. So project apartment garden started. Next up is me getting a fishing rod to see if I can catch my own meat hehe.
As some of you might have read, I did a january challenge of no sugar. You an read about it here, but bottom line is that while the first week sucked I got through it and felt so much better after. What it also showed me was that I can actually achieve my goals if I just put my head to it. So, at the beginning of april I started a diet. I've set myself a goal of getting rid of all the extra weight in 1 year. So i've been going to the gym and eatign healthy. Counting my calories, keeping from the sweets and cakes, and generally moving more. And while it sometimes is so hard, I'm feeling so much better.
So yeah, that's my April.
I hope you all had a great month.
Motivation is a funny size. You often hear the phrase “I don’t have the motivation…” as an excuse to not do things. I’ve used it way to much myself.
But what is motivation other than a kick in the ass? It’s not like motivation appears from thin air. Motivation is self control. It’s wanting to reach a goal. It’s not telling yourself bad excuses. It’s doing things even when we don’t want to do it. It’s taking responsibility.
Not having the motivation is a bad excuse for not taking responsibility for your own actions. And often an excuse for being lazy. For me, realizing this helped me so much. It isn’t that we can never use the phrase “no motivation” because I think we all have days where no matter what we just wanna stay on that couch instead of going to the gym, but while you might say “I have no motivation…” to the world, be honest with yourself.
It isn’t missing motivation that’s keeping me on the couch on sundays, it’s being a lazy fat-ass who loves to binge-watch tv.
For me it’s worked wonders to stop up every time I don’t “feel motivated” and ask myself why I don’t feel motivated. Admitting it’s because I’m lazy, often ends up getting me out the door, because while I don’t mind feeling un-motivated (something that’s been widely accepted as normal) I hate being lazy.
What’s your worst “I don’t feel motivated…” sin?
I am not a Romance writer, not really. I do write romances sometimes, but to me, the romance is just a way of telling the story. I don’t write for the romance, the romance is just the delivery system. Sounds silly, but that’s the way I see it :P
(Don’t get me wrong. This is not a bash on Romance Writers. I think they are amazing writers that truly burn for the love between their characters, and the only reason I don’t consider myself a Romance writer even when writing romance, is because I’m so not on that level)
But, even when not writing anything Romantic, love often have a way of creeping into my stories. I think it’s because love is such a human emotion, that drives us to do more crazy shit than any other emotion out there.
I often say that my characters have anger issues (which they do) but it’s the love that makes them do the most fucked up things. It’s love that makes them go to war. It’s love that makes them into killers. Anger might be their fuel, but it’s Love that drives them.
What is your favorite Love story?
It is no secret that I do love a good murder. Nothing makes me as happy as writing out someones gruesome death. And in Denmark, comfy family time means a Saturday evening in front of the TV watching a good British Murder Mystery.
In Scandinavia we have a tradition for awesome female crime authors, and I grew up reading these womens awesome stories. I do admit though that my first love was Agatha Christie and probably always will be. That woman had a way of building personalities that is on a level I can only hope of getting near.
Who is your favorite murder mystery author?
No, I don't have a jukebox, unfortunatly, though if I did I wouldn't know where to place it. Those things are big. But, when writing I do like to have some background noise. Often, that will be music.
Now I'm not that stuck on genre when it comes to music. I love all kinds of music as long as it makes me feel good. I listen to rock, blues, pop, electronic, and everything in between. People often say that the music need to fit the scene they are writing, but for me the music needs to fit my mood, not my writing.
To be fair though, my back ground noise doesn't have to be music. I like putting on movies and tv-shows that I've seen before and let them play. Like right now, Top Gear is playing in the back ground. (Top gear is totally my guilty pleasure, and nothing can put a smile on my face like Clarkson, May and Hammond.)
What's your favorite background noise?
Have a great day
In todays age, most people write on computers, tablets or other electronic devices. But for me, writing by hand is a great help in the creative process, and I always have notebooks/paper near me.
The list of things I write by hand is long. I have my journal I use to track a lot of things in, all of it handwritten. I take notes about changes needing to be made while reading my works in progres. If I hit a rough spot in a story that doesn't want to flow the right way, switching to handwriting often helps me through it. Timelines just works best for me if done in hand first. Character sheets and planning also often orks better written by hand.
Now I admit that my handwriting isn't the best. If I write really slow I can write both normal and cursive pretty well, but when taking notes it goes fast, and sometimes I do have trouble reading what the hell it was I had written.
Since I love handwriting so much, I better admit I also have a thing for notebooks. I have way to many notebooks, and even a ring binder filled with lose papers with story ideas, notes and stuff. I probably should throw them out since the chance of me ever using anything in them is around 0.5%, but I'm nostalgic and I don't think I could ever do that. Maybe.
Have a great day
I'm often asked where I get my inspiration from. And my asnwer is always the same; How can I not?
I mean, look at the world around us. Go on, go look out your window. Even if all you see is grey buildings and rain, it's a story waiting to happen.
How? you might ask, and that is a bit more tricky.
When I walk down a street, and see a guy in say a big hoodie, walking close to the buildings, his hands stuffed into his pockets and his eyes firmly fixed on the road, my mind instantly says, "Hmmm what could be the reason for him walking like that?" and instead of jumbing to the conclusion that he is probably listening to music and on his way home from work, feeling tired and not wanting to deal with the mass of tourists, my mind jumps to a million scenarios.
Is he hiding something? Maybe he's running from something? Is he afraid? Scared? Hurt?
From there it's an easy jump to a bit of story building.
Maybe the guy lived on the streets? Maybe he got pulled into running drugs for a warm place to stay? Maybe he got in deep and saw shit he would have given his left nut to unsee? Maybe he is finally trying to get away so he can build a new life? From there, it's easy running.
Peter lost his mother when he was fifteen. The father had never been in the picture, and Peter didn't even have a name to go with the title. The state put him in foster care, but when he ran off the third time he got lost between the cracks. At fifteen his choices where limited. Join a gang, or sell you ass and Peter wasn't going to sell his ass to any creeps. At first it had been easy. Run some drugs in exchange for a warm corner to sleep and some food once in a while. Then he was put on a corner near a school and started selling. He was young enough to mix with the other kids. But then, six months ago, everything had gone wrong. He had stumbled upon his boss killing some dude. Fuck, he wished he had never seen that. 6 months of keeping his mouth shut. 6 months of fearing someone would put a bullet between his eyes every night. He couldn't take it anymore. Maybe selling his ass would be better on the long run.
There, now you have the beginning of a story. of course, a story isn't a story if it doesn't have some kind of plot.
But in the roughest state, a plot is nothing more than a few bulletpoints leading the story along. And really, this happens all the time. Walking in the forest I imagin a hidden city, or some creature hiding between the trees. Going to the sea, I imagine going on some great adventure to strange places. Seeing people on the street, I imagine stories for each of them.
I cannot stop ideas and inspiration to fill my mind everywhere I go.
Maybe that's what makes me a writer. Maybe it's just the way my brain sees the world. I don't have the answers to those questions, but i know that I never run out of inspiration for stories to write.
Have a great day
I think most writers know the feeling. We keep every little scrap of paper we ever wrote an idea on. We have folders filled with words and words and words. We refuse to delete anything, because what if we’re suddenly in a situation where we could use that discarded paragraph? Oh the horror.
And then sometimes we get nostalgic and start reading some of these discarded ideas and weird chapters. And we’re suddenly faced with the ghosts of writings past.
It can be quite the horror show filled with bad spelling, grammar mistakes, and so many cliches. And sometimes we’re lucky and find a little piece of gold.
But mostly, these old writings shows us just how much we have grown as authors and writers. How we have evolved and changed.
Have you visited the ghosts of writings past lately?
Have a great day :)
And that means you.
Nothing makes me as happy as knowing you are reading my books, my blog posts, or any other social media update out there.
You freaking rock.
You will hear people say that they don't care about people reading their books. That they are just writing for themselves. And yes, in some regards that is true. We all write books that we in some way want to read. We write the stories we like.
But every time you see an author talking about comments, reviews, and fan mail, it's because what we love, what makes our day brighter, is knowing we somehow connected with one of you. It just makes everything better.
Even if 'all' we get is a "This is awesome" or "I really liked this character" or "what a great picture" it means that all our work, all the hours spent working and planning and thinking and ripping hair out trying to edit a book, wasn't all for nothing.
So, if you want to make an author happy, leave a comment, send them a message, retweet them or link to them.
It means a million smiles to us.
Have a great day
People often have this idea that writers just sit on their sofa, or in front of their desk, writing, drinking booze and fooling around on the internet claiming writers block.
But a writer's life is more than that. A lot more, especially if you have a day job beside writing to help pay the bills. Life for a writer isn't all fun and games.
For a writer who makes a living from writing, it's a hard job. Especially if you're an indie writer. Some of the people I know publish full length novels every 3 months. That's around 80 - 100 K words, written, edited and published every three months. They pull 12+ hour days working their asses off. Because it's not just writing. It's writing, editing, online marketing, covers, blurbs, blogs, facebook, and trying to navigate the constantly changing world of Indie publishing.
On top of all the writing related jobs, there's the normal everyday stuff to do too.
For me that means cleaning, shopping, cooking, doing the laundry, taking care of the kids, school meetings, play dates, sick days.
And now I'm sure some people are thinking 'But if you aren't making a living from it, why do it?'
The simple answer is that there is no simple answer. I write because I love it. Because I can't stop. The ideas wont go away. I also write because yes, I hope to one day actually make a living from it. I write because I love telling my stories, and because I think my stories are worth sharing.
And I write because even with everything else, writing is worth it.
Have a great day
A writer's life
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