I've been sick for a few days, so I thought it would be nice to talk about my favorite five self-care activities. Self-care is such an important thing to do, but people often forget to, or even feel bad when doing them.
No. 1 - Audiobooks.
I love reading, and often take time to enjoy a book. But on the days where I really need self care, audiobooks are my go to thing. I'll light a few candles, lie on the sofa, close my eyes, and just listen to the audiobook for half an hour. It's like taking a nap but without the pillow creases on your face.
No. 2 - Facemask and nailpolish
Sometimes when feeling a bit down, I do a home spa. I do a cozy face mask (my favorite is this vanilla fudge mask my local store sometimes sells. it's starts heating up when you apply it so your face goes all relaxed) and while the facemask works, i do my nails. Put on some spa/relax music and drink a cup of coffee, and I feel in heaven.
No. 3 - card games
We all got smart phones, and they come with about a million free games. But nothing is quite as relaxing as putting your phone away and pull out an old set of playing cards. I love playing patience/klondike (the name, I'm told, depends on where you live. Here it's called 7 kabale) and a few rounds of it, always makes my brain relax a bit.
No. 4 - Coffee and nothing
Sometimes what we truly need is to do nothing. So I light a few candles, make a nice cup of coffee (with vanilla of course) and just exist. I sit on the couch or by a window and let life pass by without trying to follow. It's amazing what 20-30 min of doing nothing can do for you.
No. 5 - Go for a walk with no purpose
This is probably my favorite of them all, but because of my ankle, my walks have been limited a lot the last year. Just put on your shoes (and what ever else you might need for the weather) and go for a walk. Look at the scenery. Enjoy the funny little things you might never have noticed before. I live in a smaller town, and I still sometimes end up in a street I've never been on before because we humans are such creatures of habits. And it's so good for you to get outside. the air, the moving and just letting yourself watch and explore.
Self-care doesn't have to mean taking 30 min out of your day. The little things count as much as the big things. Light candles while eating dinner/working at the computer/watching a movie. Buy those flowers for yourself if they make you happy every time you see them. Put on an audiobook while vacuuming. Use those favorite plates every day. Make yourself feel good, and don't wait until you think you've "earned it" by finishing some task.
That's my favorite top five and a little bonus :)
What's your favorite self-care activity?
A Dark Anatomy - by Robin Blake
I found the book in a local book store that got a small section of English books. While I do enjoy reading books in Danish, I prefer reading English books in English. I didn't know anything about the book, but was drawn in by the cover, and after reading the back cover, I knew I had to take it home.
I started reading it that night but actually ended up stopping before getting really into it. Now that wasn't the books fault at all, but I had just finished reading a very interesting book in a series, and my head was still filled with it, so I simply couldn't concentrate on new characters. I put the book back in my to be read pile and it stayed there for a few weeks before I got back to it.
And then I started reading, and I didn't stop until I reached the end.
In 1740's England, a squires wife is found dead under a great old oak, her throat slashed. Coroner Titus Cragg and Doctor Luke Fidelis are on the case and have to navigate politics, superstition, and the different social layers of life, to try and find the killer.
The story isn't fast paced, but it fits the setting, and the overall feel of the story. The characters truly come to life, and I was completely caught up in the story and the characters lives. The murder investigation drew me in and I couldn't stop reading because I needed to know what happened next.
The setting seemed very authentic to 1740 England, though I admit my knowledge of that time period is limited. But nothing made me go "Oh, this seems wrong." But at the same time the story isn't trying to be pretentious about it, so the author really managed to pull of a great balance.
The main character, Cragg, has quite a personality and his way of thinking is interesting. He is both a progressive man and very much a man of his time, and the mix is a nice blend that makes him more than just your normal "detective".
I highly recommend the book to anyone who loves a good mystery.
Yesterday it was my birthday. Yes, I turned 34, but I don't feel a year older than 33 years and 363 days ;) It was a quiet day, with just me and the kids and it was lovely.
The kids woke me up at 6 am, and they had set a breakfast table and we ate and I opened the presents from them. They got me a cat teddy, that I can "Hug when you miss Katsu" as they said. (Katsu is what they call my boyfriend who is currently living in Finland studying at university). They also got me a awesome rainbow pinata with candy, and I almost felt sad when we had to destroy it that afternoon.
While the kids were at school, I enjoy a completely selfcare day. Long shower, lots of coffee, and I managed to listen to a whole 6 hour audiobook. I played around a bit on social media and tried to keep up with all the congratulations.
When the kids got home we had coffee and cake, smashed the pinata (which was great fun even if it was sad to destroy it) and then my oldest was off to her first day in her new after school club. So me and the youngest had a fun night on the couch with pizza and movies.
And I got two absolutely beautiful bouquets of flowers delivered too.
First I got one from my parents. Since my birthday hit a workday they couldn't make it this year, so they sent me some absolutely wonderful autumn colored flowers.
And not long after another delivery guy arrived with the biggest bouquet of flowers I have ever gotten. Hehe it was so big I had to place it on the floor to get a full picture of it. As mentioned my boyfriend is in finland, which means that days like birthdays are sometimes held apart. So he sent me flowers and I have been told more surprises are to follow. Not sure what that means, but I do love surprises.
I hope you all have a wonderful week.
As I mentioned in my last post, 2019 haven't been the best year for my creativity. But, things are starting to look up now, so with that in mind, and to motivate myself a bit more, I wanted to share how my writing time works.
My writing time is divided into different parts, but every part is connected and I can move between them easily. Each part have a set of things I need to do. Some of them are daily, some of them I do a few times a week. Knowing what each part contains help to build a habit, and rhythm in my work:
- Check that everything is up to date
- Answer any new comments
- Write new posts
- Find pictures
- Post a few new things
- Share blogposts
- Check out new followers and follow back
- Answer comments
- Engage with people
- Join post sharing and blogging threads
- Read blogs, and comment on them (one of my favourite things to do. It can be such a time stealer but I love it.)
- Write (I try to get at least 400 words down every day)
- Edit (I am not an edit as you go person. So I'll write on one project and edit on another project)
- Checking up on schedules
I know it doesn't seem like a lot of writing for an author, but the 400 words is my minimum (5 days a week). I know people who can easily write 5000 words every day, and I think they are amazing, but I simply can't do it. That is one of the reasons I no longer do NaNoWriMo (National novel writing month - where the goal is to write 50K words in one month). I can do it, and have done it more than once, but I'm also completely burned out when I get to the end, and the product I end up with is often such a mess it ends up needing a complete rewrite anyway.
Thanks for reading.
Hello all you lovely people :)
As some of you might have noticed, it's been a long time since I posted. 4 months actually.
Let's just say that 2019 haven't gone as planned. And I had planned it all. I had all my blog posts planned, and social media and everything else. And then life happened. But, I'm trying to make the rest of 2019 better. Gonna get back on the horse as they say <3
Good things have happened though.
I finally got my ankle operated and hopefully they got it fixed up. I still don't know what the future will bring, but I'm trying to be hopeful and if nothing else I'm hoping the pain that's been my constant companion for a year is finally going away, or at least gonna be better.
And of course, I've gotten to spend a lot of nice time with the boyfriend, and my and the kids went to Finland this summer to spend 12 days with him. It was absolutely lovely.
The last year haven't been good writing wise. The pain have drained my creativity, and it's been very sparse with any writing on my projects. But I'm slowly getting back into it, which feels so good. Just having the brain capacity to do it is such a freeing experience.
I hope you all had a great summer, and here's to a wonderful autumn.
April is done, gone and put away, and all that's left to do is look back at the month and reflect on how it went.
A to Z challenge:
Yup, I totally failed. I made it to day 15 and then life happened, and I totally got away from my good groove. I'm pretty annoyed with myself because I haf planned it all out, but I guess it just shows that even the best plans doesn't help you if you don't actually follow them. But, I'm not gonna be all sad about it. I'll just have to try better next year and plan even better. It's a lerning experience, and as long as I actually learned somethig from it I'm happy.
Easter was great. I went to my parents place and we celebrated my sons birthday, the kids got way to much chocolate (I still got some in the cupboard) and we had a nice easter dinner and lunch. We where super lucky, and had wonderful weather the easter days, so we got to grill in the garden, have a fire and make marshmellows, and go to the beach (though the only one crazy enough to go in the freezing water was my dad. The rest of us just soaked up some sun and relaxed on the sand while the kids played)
I started an Apartment garden. Basically, I've decided to try and grow veg indoors in a tiny apartment. What I have done is taken all the windowspace and simply used for eatable plants instead of flowers. So far I got two tomato plants, two bell peppers, and about 20 pots of salad growing. The idea came from watching a favorite program of mine, River Cottage. If you don't know the program its about this british guy who decides to leave the busy life in town and try and make it as a small holder in the british country, growing his own food, having a few animals and using what nature can give him. I like the idea, and got thinking that just because I live in a city in a small apartment, shouldn't mean I couldn't be more self sufficient. So project apartment garden started. Next up is me getting a fishing rod to see if I can catch my own meat hehe.
As some of you might have read, I did a january challenge of no sugar. You an read about it here, but bottom line is that while the first week sucked I got through it and felt so much better after. What it also showed me was that I can actually achieve my goals if I just put my head to it. So, at the beginning of april I started a diet. I've set myself a goal of getting rid of all the extra weight in 1 year. So i've been going to the gym and eatign healthy. Counting my calories, keeping from the sweets and cakes, and generally moving more. And while it sometimes is so hard, I'm feeling so much better.
So yeah, that's my April.
I hope you all had a great month.
Motivation is a funny size. You often hear the phrase “I don’t have the motivation…” as an excuse to not do things. I’ve used it way to much myself.
But what is motivation other than a kick in the ass? It’s not like motivation appears from thin air. Motivation is self control. It’s wanting to reach a goal. It’s not telling yourself bad excuses. It’s doing things even when we don’t want to do it. It’s taking responsibility.
Not having the motivation is a bad excuse for not taking responsibility for your own actions. And often an excuse for being lazy. For me, realizing this helped me so much. It isn’t that we can never use the phrase “no motivation” because I think we all have days where no matter what we just wanna stay on that couch instead of going to the gym, but while you might say “I have no motivation…” to the world, be honest with yourself.
It isn’t missing motivation that’s keeping me on the couch on sundays, it’s being a lazy fat-ass who loves to binge-watch tv.
For me it’s worked wonders to stop up every time I don’t “feel motivated” and ask myself why I don’t feel motivated. Admitting it’s because I’m lazy, often ends up getting me out the door, because while I don’t mind feeling un-motivated (something that’s been widely accepted as normal) I hate being lazy.
What’s your worst “I don’t feel motivated…” sin?
I am not a Romance writer, not really. I do write romances sometimes, but to me, the romance is just a way of telling the story. I don’t write for the romance, the romance is just the delivery system. Sounds silly, but that’s the way I see it :P
(Don’t get me wrong. This is not a bash on Romance Writers. I think they are amazing writers that truly burn for the love between their characters, and the only reason I don’t consider myself a Romance writer even when writing romance, is because I’m so not on that level)
But, even when not writing anything Romantic, love often have a way of creeping into my stories. I think it’s because love is such a human emotion, that drives us to do more crazy shit than any other emotion out there.
I often say that my characters have anger issues (which they do) but it’s the love that makes them do the most fucked up things. It’s love that makes them go to war. It’s love that makes them into killers. Anger might be their fuel, but it’s Love that drives them.
What is your favorite Love story?
It is no secret that I do love a good murder. Nothing makes me as happy as writing out someones gruesome death. And in Denmark, comfy family time means a Saturday evening in front of the TV watching a good British Murder Mystery.
In Scandinavia we have a tradition for awesome female crime authors, and I grew up reading these womens awesome stories. I do admit though that my first love was Agatha Christie and probably always will be. That woman had a way of building personalities that is on a level I can only hope of getting near.
Who is your favorite murder mystery author?
No, I don't have a jukebox, unfortunatly, though if I did I wouldn't know where to place it. Those things are big. But, when writing I do like to have some background noise. Often, that will be music.
Now I'm not that stuck on genre when it comes to music. I love all kinds of music as long as it makes me feel good. I listen to rock, blues, pop, electronic, and everything in between. People often say that the music need to fit the scene they are writing, but for me the music needs to fit my mood, not my writing.
To be fair though, my back ground noise doesn't have to be music. I like putting on movies and tv-shows that I've seen before and let them play. Like right now, Top Gear is playing in the back ground. (Top gear is totally my guilty pleasure, and nothing can put a smile on my face like Clarkson, May and Hammond.)
What's your favorite background noise?
Have a great day
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