A bit of background:
In july 2018 I hurt my ankle. Nobody knows what actually happened, but after a festival I came home with a hurting ankle. At first I thought it was just a sore ankle from walking around on grass/fields for a week, but the first day back at work had me in so much pain I had to call the doctor and go home early. Since then I have been in and out of hospitals and doctor appointments, and they still don’t know what is actually wrong with the damn thing.
But, going from 20k steps a day to around 4k steps wasn’t exactly good for my body. Sitting still every day, not working and being in pain wasn’t good for my diet either.
So, in January I took the step to cut out sugar for a whole month. Now, I knew it wasn’t going to be easy, and I knew I needed to decide exactly what sugar meant. After some looking around I decided that for me, it was all those empty calorie sugars I wanted to get rid of.
So, in January I cut out:
All added sugar
All soda (unless zero sugar)
All junkfood and ready to eat food
Generally food that I knew was filled with sugar
I started the day I returned from new year visits at my parents (January 5th).
And let me tell you, it was hard. It was so freaking hard I was ready to quit 20 times every single day. Those first ten days my body protested all the time. It needed sugar and junk food and was more than happy to tell me.
But, slowly it got better. And at the end of January I even managed to quit my beloved coke zero that I’ve been drinking for years and years. We’re now almost at the end of February, and I’m still keeping my sugar intake low. I’m not cutting out sugar completely, but try to keep it to a single tiny little sugary treat once a week or so. One week I enjoyed a bit of dark chocolate with blueberries (which was so good) and another week I baked a carrot cake with my kids.
Now for the important part, what happened?
Well, a lot happened. I feel better. I have more energy and actually sleep better at night. I don’t feel the need to eat constantly and that need to go look in the cupboards after dinner is almost gone. I also don’t crave fatty things as I did before. Also my craving for empty carbs have gone down a lot. White bread, pasta, white rice and so on was something I ate daily, and I don’t crave it anymore. I can happily eat a salad and feel full.
All in all since January 5th I’ve lost almost 4 kilos. Now keep in mind I haven’t gone totally healthy. I still eat gravy and cheese (all the cheese) and butter and bacon. I eat lots of nuts and dried fruits. And I still have freshly baked bread on Sunday. But even though my calorie intake is probably pretty high, I feel better and my system seems happier.
All in all this has been a really cool thing to go through, and I’m very set in not going back to the old ways. Feeling the difference between four months ago and now is so wild and it really shows how much I’ve “poisened” my body by stuffing it with all the wrong kind of things. So from now on my goal is to keep it to small treats instead of a daily dose.
Thank you for reading.
Do you ever play the game where you think, if I win the lottery I want… ??
I know the old saying that money can’t buy you happiness. Well, I’ll say that who ever came up with that saying never tried being poor. Because sure, having money wont make you happy, but being poor wont either. Being poor (or low income) is stressful.
So, if I won the lottery, here’s what I would do.
Well at first I’d probably faint or something stupid like hyperventilate and feel sick. I’d check, recheck, and then check once more, and probably wouldn’t actually believe it until the money was in my bank account. I would pay off all my dept, and make a saving account for both my kids to secure them when they move from home, so they can follow their dreams.
Then I’d buy a nice house. Not something stupidly big, because I’d feel so alone in a giant house when the kids are with their dad. But something nice, and with room enough to have guests.
I’d take my kids traveling so they can see the world. And I'd go travel with my boyfriend to see all the romantic places the world has to offer. And I'd travel to explore and meet people.
I’d go shopping for furniture. I love second hand furniture, and 95% of my furniture is second hand, but to be able to go to a store and choose the sofa I want, not the one I can afford, would be awesome.
Other than that, I would just enjoy life. Just the fact that I could go shopping for groceries and buy what I want and not what’s on sale. I guess it’s the small things that would make a difference.
Oh, and being a writer, I would get a nice office setup. I’d get big white boards, and bulletin boards on the walls for planning books. I’d have a nice desk with room enough for all my stuff (and where I don’t have to move it every time we eat) and a desk chair that doesn’t make my back go all stiff.
What’s your dreams if you won the lottery?
Hate it or love it, it's hard to ignore Valentine's day. It's on tv, in stores, on social media. It's absolutely everywhere.
Normally Valentine's Day is a day of flowers, romantic dinners and chocolate (all the chocolate). When your boyfriend is in another country, studying for four years, things is a bit different though. So today there’s gonna be a lot of messages and cute hearts and stuff send back and forth.
Luckily I’m going to spend all of week 9 with him, and we’ll make up for not spending valentine’s day together.
So, if you’re sitting alone today like me, I recommend a good book. Books make everything better <3
The Forgotten Beasts of Eld
I've not read this one myself, but a friend of mine have highly recommended it, and it's on my to read list.
Young Sybel, the heiress of powerful wizards, needs the company of no-one outside her gates. In her exquisite stone mansion, she is attended by exotic, magical beasts: Riddle-master Cyrin the boar; the treasure-starved dragon Gyld; Gules the Lyon, tawny master of the Southern Deserts; Ter, the fiercely vengeful falcon; Moriah, feline Lady of the Night. Sybel only lacks the exquisite and mysterious Liralen, which continues to elude her most powerful enchantments. But Sybel's solitude is to be shattered when a desperate soldier arrives bearing a mysterious child. Soon Sybel will discover that the world of men is full of love, deceit, and the temptations of vast power.
The Devil all the Time
If romance is not your thing, I recommend this book. It's one of my favourite books, and is absolutely amazing.
In the backwoods of Ohio, Willard Russell’s wife is succumbing to cancer, no matter how much he drinks, prays, or sacrifices animals at his "prayer log." Meanwhile, his son Arvin is growing up, from a kid bullied at school into a man who knows when to take action. Around them swirl a nefarious cast of characters—a demented team of serial killers, a spider-eating preacher, and a corrupt local sheriff—all braided into a riveting narrative of the grittiest American grain.
Have a wonderful day.
“If your office plant could talk, what would it say about you?”
So, today’s post is gonna be a little bit silly. I saw this on pinterest and thought it was a fun little thing to post about.
I mostly write at my dinning room table. I do have a very pretty old desk, but because it’s old it’s not the best to work at so I mostly use it for storing my computer when not working. And on my dinning room table, I got these two little cute plants. They are small enough to not take up too much room, and they fit my salt and pepper set perfectly <3
So, what would they say if they could talk?
Well, they would probably say that I sit at my computer too much. I do spend a lot of time in front of the screen. Between blogging, writing, editing, social media, updating websites and procrastinating, I spend a lot of my day in front of the screen. Less when my kids are here, more when they are with their dad.
And they would protest me forgetting to water them. I’m so bad a watering my plants and I generally can only keep things that are green alive. Add flowers to the mix and they will die in less than three weeks. Only exception is my peace lilies. But then, they don’t always have a flower.
Also coffee. Not just that I drink a lot of coffee, because I do, but also that I tend to forget about it halfway through the cup when I get caught up in something I’m doing and then end up drinking it cold (yes I’m one of those people).
That I re-watch the same shows on tv way to much. But, I just work better with sounds in the background. Sometimes it’s music but more often it’s some show. And yes, it’s old episodes that I’ve seen a hundred times before. If I put on new stuff I get distracted, but old shows is like an old friend. They just make a bit of noise in the background while I work.
That I look cute with my new glasses. Okay, I’m just saying that because I’m still a bit self conscious about my glasses. I’ve had them a few months now, and I’m still getting used to them.
That I’m way to obsessed with my planner. Which is true. I don’t deny it. But the planner is my lifeline for everything.
So yeah, I think that’s the biggest things the plants would talk about if they could.
What would your plants say about you? Let me know in the comments <3
This blog post was inspired by Hello Bexa's post about stationery essentials for bloggers.
It is no secret that I love notebooks. In fact I have a very hard time walking past a pretty looking notebook and not buy it. Even if the truth is that over the last year or so, I'm using notebooks less and less, and phone and computer more and more. But they are just sooo pretty.
But, If I'm not using that many notebooks any more, what do I use?
Well, let me show you
My planner is my most important tool. I use it for all my planning when it comes to writing, blogging, and social media. Without it I would be a ship lost at sea.
(If you're interested in knowing how I plan a whole year of blogging and social media, I'm doing a post about it Monday, January 28th)
The washi tape
Okay, so I admit I'm a bit of an washi tape addict. But I do use it a lot. Mostly I use it in my planner. Every day I have a planned blogpost, I mark it with one specific color so it's easy to find. National and international funny days (chocolate day and coffee day anyone?) is also marked with their own color. Publishing dates, another color, and so on. It makes it easy to find the right days, and it's a great visualization tool.
Yes, I know I said I have gone electronic, mostly. But I still like to always have a notebook beside me when i work, just like I have one in my bag in case inspiration strikes.
Pencils, erasers, tape, and sketchbook
I try to only use pencils in my planner as I like to have the option of erasing and moving stuff around. I made the mistake of beginning the year with using a pen, and every time i see those black letters I get a little bit annoyed at myself. Because I use pencils I of course also need a few erasers. And because I sometimes need to put something in my planner where washi tape isn't useful, I have normal clear tape. I also have a stabler, but didn't remember to take a picture of it. It's white, and boring, and looks like a stabler hehe.
My sketchbook is my last stationery I'm gonna talk about. If I feel stuck on a project, drawing helps so much. I used to just do it on random pieces of paper, but I saw this one on January sale and just had to buy it. It's still completely unused, but I'm sure that'll change soon.
I think that was it :) Of course I got like a million other things. Stickers, colored pencils, pens in all shapes and sizes, colored paper and so on, but the things in this post, are the things I use every single day. Except the scethbook, but it's pretty so I got to join the other things hehe.
What kind of stationery do you use and love?
Today is National clean your desk day.
It's a perfect opportunity to start fresh, and get a clean slate to start on. There's something satisfying and mentally pleasing when your desk is clean.
This year I went a step further and completely cleared my desk. I removed everything, wiped it down, and I'm only putting the things I really want, back in the desk.
I'm a bit of a hoarder. Not the bad, fill your house with junk kind of hoarder, but I do like stuff and it can have a tendency to sneak up on me. So one of my new years resolutions is to clean out. Scale back. So over the next week, I'm going through every piece that used to clutter my desk and only keeping the things I really need or love.
Here's to a fresh start.
This month is Hot tea month. A month dedicated to all tea lovers in the world, and the hot beverage of their choice.
Now I’ll admit that coffee is more my style, but that doesn’t mean I can't enjoy a lovely cup of tea. My favorites are fruity teas, but there is a few others tucked in there.
Every time I brew a cup of tea, my mind always goes to old british detective movies. I grew up watching Miss Marple and Hercule Poirot along with Midsomer Murders. And one day I wanna get my hands on a pretty tea set like you see in some of those.
My local tea pusher sells a black tea with truffle and chili. And this tea is an experience from start to finish. When you open the bag this mix of chili and truffle scents hit you and it just smells like the most wonderful dessert in the world. I don’t know what that dessert is, but I know I wanna eat it every time I open the tea bag.
Then as you brew the tea the scents get a warmer feel, and the chili gets stronger. When you drink it you can feel a tiny bit of bite on your tongue without it in any way becoming strong or uncomfortable. More like a little lovebite from the tea to remind you how wonderful it really is.
Another great tea from my local tea pusher is their blue berry tea. It contains real blue berries and strawberry pieces and brewing this tea just makes my mind go to late summer days.
Of course, I’m difficult and always drink my tea with milk in it.
So in honor of Hot tea month, tell me what’s your favorite kind of tea?
Happy new year you wonderful people.
I am home from all my christmas and new years visits and a new year of exciting things can be started.
2018 was pretty crazy for me. I started a new job. Ruined my ankle. Had to quit my new job. And fell in love. All of this has meant my writing haven't been cared for and given the attention it deserve, and the same goes for this blog and my other social media. But 2019 is gonna be my year. It's gonna be my time to shine. And yes, it's gonna take a lot of work, but I'm ready and have spend a lot of time planning.
My hope is to send at least 2 books out in 2019, and be consistent on my social media and the blog. I've been planning like crazy, and been searching inspiration all over the web (okay, so mostly pinterest. I swear, that place is freaking dangerous. It's a time sucking black hole. You go in to find a cake recipe, and suddenly you look up and don't know what time, day or year this is :P )
I hope you all had a wonderful christmas and new year.
It means cleaning, organizing and sunshine. It means bird song, flowers and rain.
So in keeping with the spring time, I've done some spring cleaning on the website too. In practical terms it means I've changed some things around to make everything more clear. I've also removed the pen name Becky Welsh. I decided to say fuck it, and just use Raven Black for everything. If someone gets confused or pissed off because they downloaded a M/M Romance, when they expected a Urban Fantasy, well, maybe they should learn to read descriptions then. Harsh? Sure, but I'm not gonna hide what I write. And I love writing Fantasy, I really do. The magic, the creatures, the well... fantasy. And the same goes for writing horror. I love pushing boundaries, making people feel creeped out, or sick or just discusted. But I also love to write a romance.
I would never let genre come between me and a good idea
So now you can find my books devided under "books" and "M/M books", and you can find a list of the upcoming books that I'm working on.
In other news next month is April. And April means the A-Z blog challenge. If you don't know what the A-Z blog challenge is, it's all about writing 26 blog posts following the Alphabet.
There will be a reveal of my blog list next week, and a more in depth explanation about what it actually is, but let me just say that I'm looking forward to it so much, and I think it's going to be so much fun. This weekend is going to be spend getting the last things ready for the challenge.
Hugs - Raven
Today is Read me Day.
The day where we should all take time to sit down and enjoy a good book, along with a cup of coffee and maybe a cookie.
Also, can I just mention here, how hard it apparently is to find a great public domain picture of cookies, coffee, and books, without there also being a bed and naked legs on display? I mean, seriously? Luckily the great people on Unsplash ones again came to the rescue.
It is also a day where you can discover new great authors, and maybe even try out a genre you never really read before. After all, ading a bit of newness to your reading list can do nothing but widen your horizon.
So, today, I'm going to introduce two awesome indie authors, that might be new to you (The name is a link to their website)
Sloane Kennedy - Sloane is a prolific author and has more than 20 books under her belt. Her newest book hits the market this March. I'm a great fan of her Protectors series (and admit that I might have read every single book she's ever written in three months) and I'm really looking forward to the next one being published. Her new series, Pelican Bay, shows a lot of promise, and the books she writes with fellow author Lucy Lennox is worth taking note of too.
Scott Bell - Author of the amazing Yeager's Law, he is an action writer when action is best. He lives by the words "What would John Wayne do?" and his writing is filled with strong characters, that's willing to do everything to keep those they love safe, and to sacrifice everything for doing the right thing. He also has a sci-fi book under his belt, and the third book in the Yeager series is under way.
So, there you go, two new authors for you to check out.
Now, go get that cup of coffee and those cookies (very important) and enjoy a good book, on this last Monday of February.
A writer's life
This is the blog where a slightly crazy author writes rambling posts about everything and nothing. There's posts about my books, writing and social media. Posts about cooking and reviews. And there's posts about life and the challenges I have set myself in 2019.
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